Why is a date with a (female*) person I‘ve been close with (in a nonsexual way) for years less valuable than a date with a (male*) person I don‘t really know but might might might get sexual with?! People keep telling me that, friends keep telling me that, without even noticing. And since they don‘t say it, bur rather act according to it, I can‘t speak up against it. Plus, it takes me time to get through to the message of their actions. I‘m not angry with them; there is no one I can blame, just patriarchy itself and he won‘t listen.