There is nothing wrong with men. Men are lovable people with the same capacity for empathy, agency, and growth as any other human on the gender spectrum. But when men are socialized to identify their humanness as masculinity and to associate masculinity with power, we get some real problems. These are the problems of patriarchy.
Schlagwort: Männer
The Elephant in the Room is Not a Bear.
With hopes that you'll understand.
I will no longer
be disciplined
by the frustration
of an insecure men
Maria Mena: Our Battles
Change II.
Feminist masculinity presupposes that it is enough for males to be to have value, that they do not have to “do,” to “perform,” to be affirmed and loved. Rather than defining strength as “power over,” feminist masculinity defines strength as one’s capacity to be responsible for self and others.
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But if as enlightened witnesses we offer the men we love (our fathers, brothers, lovers, friends, comrades) affirmation that they can change as well as assurance that we will accept them when they are changed, transformation will not seem as risky.
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In a world where boys and men are daily losing their way we must create guides, signposts, new paths.
bell hooks: The Will to Change
Emanntional II.
Women demanded of men that they give more emotionally, but most men really could not understand what was being asked of them.
bell hooks: The Will to Change
Emanntional.
The very phrase “Be a man” means suck it up and keep going. Disconnection is not fallout from traditional masculinity. Disconnection is masculinity.
bell hooks: The Will to Change